So what shall a sissy do?
Before you start flirting, it is important that you understand the essence of seduction. Flirting is all about interest. It involves being confident, playful, fun, and mysterious. The whole body is involved in the beguiling ballet. There are movements, interactive gestures, and speech. First you must spend time watching how women participate in the rituals of flirtation.
Women use over 52 basic moves as often as 70 or 80 times an hour! Watch a group of women mingling at a bar and notice how many of them will stroke the front of their necks or play with their jewelry. Other behaviors include caressing any object on the table like the rim of a wine glass, cigarette lighter, or pepper mill. After several minutes of the stroking behavior they’ll move into something more obvious like playing with their hair, smoothing their clothes, or adjusting their posture. Some are more brazen and run a lemon slice or a cherry across their lips. This enables women to expose their tongues (a trick borrowed from the animal kingdom), which most of men go crazy over. The body is speaking even when they are not. Be aware of what message is being sent!
You may notice eyebrow flash- an exaggerated raising of both eyebrows for a couple of seconds, followed by a rapid lowering to the normal position, often combined with a smile and eye contact. It is a coy smile, a sort of half-smile, showing little if any tooth, combined with a downward gaze or very brief eye contact. She may move in time to the music while seated, periodically glancing at the object of desire (with a coy smile or two), never being too forward but definitely showing interest. See how the object of desire responds. Does she succeed? What works and what seems to fall flat?
What is said is important, but how it is said is crucial. A friendly opening line can break the ice. What does a woman say? It might be a simple, “hello”. Simply changing the way one says “hi” or “hello” to someone can be very flirty. Saying it deeper, softer and slower along with one of the above flirting gestures can send just the right message. A woman might open with a compliment. Successful temptresses appear interested rather than interesting. They do not focus on themselves entirely, but instead nourish the egos of their targets, inspiring confidence and desire. Women may tease and laugh. They have fun and may transition the ballet into a tango. Listen to what people are saying to each other.
Go home and try to emulate some of the behavior that was attractive. Practice opening lines and flirtatious but not suggestive responses. Be sure to review Our two Assignments on speech training here and here.